Ten Goals For 2019 With A Sprinkling Of Midlife Wisdom

Goals _And _Dreams _For _2019

I’ve been toying with the idea of spilling my new year musings out onto the blog for days but I couldn’t think how I wanted it to come out. I didn’t do one last year. I wish I had. They are great posts to look back on. I did write a post on my one year blogging anniversary in February but this isn’t just blog related.

2018 has been a massive year for change for me. I left a job at the end of April that I had been desperately unhappy in for a while. I took the plunge just before my 55th birthday in May to start a new business. I was scared stiff but I knew it was the right thing to do. I’ve learned so much but have so much more to learn. Granted my business is in the same field that I have had experience in for the last almost 14 years but still scary nonetheless.

I have so many things that I want to do in my business. It will change direction ever so slightly this year and I am very excited about it.

I’ve also come to realise two BIG things. They haven’t happened this year in 2018 per se but they have become more solid and meaningful to me.

First is, that I am not frightened of failure. I used to be but not any more. Several years ago I lost a business that I had put everything into for over 10 years. It was a growing, successful business and at the time the loss happened was on the brink of enormous potential. We almost lost everything as a family because of it. The loss of it was beyond my control, sadly. I am determined to document the story in some way one day.

The ensuing days, weeks and months of digging ourselves out of the hole were very dark. Needless to say the lesson learned when I came out the other side eventually was that nothing could frighten me to that extent ever again. I wouldn’t allow it. It taught me that you can always find a way. If you have health and family who love you,  you can achieve anything. They are what counts. You can’t do anything without either and nothing is worth it without either.

The Second  BIG Thing Taps Into The First BIG Thing

That I don’t care who likes me. I love the people who love me and if you like me you are onto a winner. I am the most loyal person you will come across but don’t cross me. It will be your loss … forever. It must be something about my star sign .. Taurus. Although, maybe there should be a mule in there, too for my stubbornness.

This is becoming quite cathartic!

For a long time I think I was a people pleaser. Whilst, I love making people happy if I can but I no longer go out of my way to please people who I know I can’t please. I’ve accepted that not everyone CAN like you. How mad would that be? We can’t possibly like everyone. I try to respect people. I’m happy with myself that I’ve reached a point in my life that I can have less to do with people that I have tried hard with in the past. I’ve done more of pleasing me on this subject in 2018 than I ever have. I’m planning to do more of this in 2019. I think what I mean is that I am embracing my faults and it’s ok if my faults and flaws don’t please everyone. As I was just saying in my Instagram DMs today { I love those chats with people} …

Everyone Has Their Tribe

Goals wise for 2019 I’m going to try to be realistic. I did set myself a business goal a couple of months ago and I achieved it so who knows?

Goals _And _Dreams _For _2019

Here Goes …One To Ten … My 2019 Wish List

  1. I’m not going to say … I’ll lose 3 stone. I’ll beat myself up all year if I say this. I do know that I need to get fit again, though. My menopause battle has been at it’s height this year and has really washed me out .. {great year to start a business, Sharon .. note to self!!} What I am going to do is take baby steps back to fitness. Today I have pledged with a friend to take part in Red January. I’m going to run {walk} every day in January in some form and see how I feel after that. I’m calling it the ‘Shazza Shuffle’ to begin with. My family have all dropped their jaws today when I made this public but this just urges me more.
  2. Grow my business and head it in the direction I’ve mapped out.
  3. Grow my business ..  and take a Friday off wherever possible .. yes I do think this is do-able. It’s not all about work. My eldest son who is 25 on New Year’s Day taught me this. Wise is nothing to do with age, right?
  4. Reach 10,000 followers on Instagram. This is a joke as I know it will never happen. I’m sending it out to the universe though lol, lol. I know how happy I am with my engagement rate { upwards of 10%} on there though and conversations with real people mean more to me than anything.
  5. Keep laughing. I love a good belly laugh. It’s like a work out for the soul. Frida knew that; ‘Nothing is worth more than laughter. It is strength to laugh and to abandon oneself, to be light.’
  6. Start a podcast. This was meant to happen this year but time, as always, ran away with me.
  7. Travel more. Just yesterday while we were out walking on the beach Mr B and I pledged to do something travel related every month in 2019. That’s 12 travel related adventures … how exciting. Finances permitting of course but even a day trip somewhere is counted as travel in my book.
  8. Jump for joy when our youngest son graduates. Happy for him and happy for our finances. See point 7.
  9. Collaborate with a dream brand. This would have to be Jo Malone. After all, a post I compared JM candles to Aldi dupes gets read every day since I published it. It’s had over 5k page views so far.
  10. Finally, decide on the theme for the book that I’ve wanted to write for ever. My family sighed a collective groan the other day when I said this would be one of my  goals .. again. Yes again. It’s a dream as well as a goal but it will happen. For a long time I wanted it to be a ghost story and that might still be in there. Now, I’d like to write something factual like the rise of the midlife influencers. Who knows but I’ve got to keep this on my list no matter how long it’s on there.

There we have it. It’s enough to be going on with isn’t it? I think they are fairly realistic. After all, I’ve written many unrealistic ones over the years so thought it was time to be  grown up about goals 😉

I’d like to take this opportunity to thank everyone who stops by to read and soak a bit of Bbed up. I really do appreciate it and love having you with me.

 

Happy New Year,

Sharon xo

 

 

10 Comments

  1. December 31, 2018 / 8:17 am

    Fabulous post and keep up the good work on IG and the business.

    Love your idea of Red Jan and travel more.

    Looking forward to more of your mid life musings in 2019.

    Ps I have a book goal too – one day it will happen.

    Happy New year xx

  2. December 31, 2018 / 8:46 am

    I want to say that even without a good health, and I have a very poor health, you can achieve everything! Your goals are just different! I would love to read about the disaster with your first business. You are super brave and super strong to start again! And I hope you achieve your list but above all I wish you a happy 2019!

  3. Annette Doyle
    December 31, 2018 / 8:58 am

    Great goals for 2019 Sharon. All the very best with these and your continued success. 😘

  4. Joy
    December 31, 2018 / 2:30 pm

    Hi Sharon, what an inspiring blog post. I have read your blog for a while now and really enjoy it. I wish you well with your goals. I was surprised how many of your goals chime with my own. The only thing is I haven’t broadcast them like you have! You might be interested to know that, thanks to you, I have also signed up for Red January. I had pleurisy a little while ago and I thought this challenge might be just the thing to help me re-gain my fitness. Good luck again, and keep up the good work with the blog!

  5. January 1, 2019 / 2:21 pm

    Great goals for 2019. Very inspirational, I love your honesty. I think being healthy and happy are the main ones for me. Everything else will follow.
    Happy new year!
    Alison xx

  6. Hilary
    January 2, 2019 / 3:47 pm

    Happy New Year Sharon, some great goals for 2019. The Shazza Shuffle sounds a fun way to regain your fitness, wearing those cheery bright pink trainers I saw on IG how can you fail!!

  7. January 2, 2019 / 5:51 pm

    Great goals. You can definitely do the Friday off. Work expands to meet the time we give it so instead of being more productive, we tend to be spread the work out (this is certainly true for me!). Studies show we do the same amount of work in a four-day week as we do in five days, so go for it! And definitely start a podcast. I was involved in one last year, before I changed jobs, and it was so much fun. You feel all Kirsty Wark-ish in front of the mic!!

  8. January 4, 2019 / 9:31 pm

    I love this post – it is so positive, have a great 2019 – I am really looking forward to reading your journey throughout the coming year

  9. January 6, 2019 / 5:04 pm

    Happy New Year!

    Loving your goals for the new year…and actually laughed out loud when I got to #9. I’d been telling a friend for awhile that I wanted to go to Aldi (they’re relatively new here and few and far between) because I’d heard they had really good candles. I couldn’t remember where I’d read that and she was always like “Aldi? Really? Aldi??” I had it so romanticized in my mind! Anyway, we finally got there just before New Years and yeah…Aldi? Really? Ha ha. There was not a candle to be found and the whole store was a MESS! We had a good laugh about it (nothing’s ever a loss if you can laugh about it). But NOW I know it was *your* blog post comparing Aldi candles to Jo Malone’s that sent me there – ha ha!

    To be honest, I’ve never had (or even smelled) a Jo Malone candle, but so many people rave about them that I’m coveting them something fierce. Because people like YOU said I should! Now THAT’S influence! Jo Malone should DEFINITELY do a collaboration with you! Fingers crossed it works out.

    See ya on the shuffle!

    Bettye

  10. January 14, 2019 / 4:01 pm

    Thank you Sharon, I really enjoyed reading this uplifting post. Wishing you much success in 2019.

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