I Am Enough & Learning To Let Go

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For as long as I can remember throughout my adult life I’ve made resolutions at new year. Mostly they’re all about setting myself unrealistic goals that I know in my heart of hearts I will never achieve and that I will continue on a cycle of self destruction of hating myself for letting myself down. You know that feeling of letting yourself down? So, I’ve decided a few things for 2020 and it’s even more apt that it’s the beginning of a new decade. Could it be I spend the next ten years of finally me settling for me and accepting that I am enough? How fabulous that would finally be.

My social media feeds since Christmas have been full of people’s goals. In equal measures they’ve made me feel happy and inadequate. Happy in the sense that I love seeing people strive for fullness in their lives. Inadequate in the sense that I think, do I have to do the same? This year, again? Sending myself into that downward spiral of failure.

I’m hoping that I can be content with just being me. I’m going to give it a try anyway. I just have to learn to let go of years and years of baggage … the shit I’ve put myself through.

 

I knew my downstairs loo picture would be cathartic 😉

 

Self acceptance is one of the toughest  tasks I think we can ever set ourselves. I started yoga for the first time ever in November and in one of the sessions the teacher asked us to think of a word or phrase that could help us be more accepting of ourselves. The phrase ‘I Am Enough’ just popped into my head. We had to repeat three times what we chose quietly to ourselves. It was so powerful to me that I almost burst into tears.

 

Yes …. I bloody well am enough

 

It was even more powerful that  author, Vex King popped up into my Instagram feed recently too. It’s weird isn’t it when a sequence of events seem to unknowingly lead you to something that is going to stop and make you think? I bought his book for my eldest son who incidentally is 26 today. Happy Birthday son!!

I loved one of Vex’s recent Instagram posts – ‘ How To Make 2020 Great’  and it really resonated with me.

All of this isn’t to say that I don’t have goals. I do. For starters, I have some pretty big business goals for 2020 and beyond. I just want to be kinder to myself if I don’t tick them off my list.  That it’s okay.

Here is the post from Vex. It’s my whole vibe for 2020.

 

 

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Get excited about your goals.

Grind like you still got a point to prove.

Network with the right people.

Step out of your comfort zone.

Be brave when it comes to challenges.

Keep a healthy sleeping pattern.

Feed your mind.

Go out there and make things happen.

Complain less.

Let shit go.

Stop negative habits.

Keep your circle positive.

Smile, laugh and love often.

Make kindness a priority.

Keep counting your blessings.

Talk about the things you love.

Try new things out.

Travel when you can.

Live in your means.

Spend more time with your loved ones.

Take good care of your body and soul.

Make your happiness a priority.

Be humble.

 

What do you think? Care to join me?

 

Happy New Year  xo

21 Comments

  1. January 1, 2020 / 6:48 pm

    Firstly Happy New Year.
    Lovely post; I’m loving your toilet ‘let that shit go’ love it.
    Thats a great list, I might have to try and work
    on some of these myself. I don’t make resolutions as I break them within about 2 days.
    My mantra for this year is ‘why not me?’ I’m working on believing that I am good enough
    Tracey x

    • Sharon Sinclair.Williams
      Author
      January 2, 2020 / 12:28 am

      Happy new year back at ya, Tracey.

      Everyone who visits likes my let that shit go!! :-))

      Isn’t it a great list. I’ve asked my son if he can let me read the book I bought him. Do you follow Vex? Everything he posts really resonates with me right now. I love your ‘why not me?’ — very much in the vein that we are enough.

      Here’s to a happy and healthy 2020 xo

  2. Annette
    January 1, 2020 / 6:50 pm

    Great post to start the year with Sharon! I agree that we can be too hard on ourselves, writing lists, setting goals, grinding ourselves into the ground to achieve everything. I am only setting one goal this year – to get more rest. I don’t get enough sleep or give myself enough relaxation time and other things suffer as a result so I feel that if I take care of that other things should fall into place. Worth a try anyway! Happy New Year!

    • Sharon Sinclair.Williams
      Author
      January 2, 2020 / 12:30 am

      One goal is definitely enough to tackle isn’t it, Annette?

      I need more rest too. Now that I’ve tried yoga as well the class I’m going to sign up for is a version of Yin Yoga … a great one for settling busy minds apparently.

      Happy 2020 lovely lady xo

  3. January 1, 2020 / 8:45 pm

    Sharon I am so with you on the no resolutions. In fact, New Year New Me is one of my most hated sayings! My last few years have shown me exactly what is important, and it has been a blessing. I am so precious now who gets my time and energy. I only like to be around positive people with integrity and I refuse to have negativity in my life. I am determined to give back even more this year as I know how lucky I am to have my life. If I have learnt anything the last few years, its go with the flow and trust what is meant for you wont miss you. All the very best to you and yours for 2020. See you soon!

    • Sharon Sinclair.Williams
      Author
      January 2, 2020 / 12:32 am

      I think I’ve probably used that phrase about myself in the best, Kerry. Thankfully, I’ve grown just enough to dislike it intensely!!

      I’m looking forward to seeing how fabulous 2020 pans out for you, darling girl.

      All the very best. Looking forward to seeing you sometime this year xo

  4. January 2, 2020 / 12:27 pm

    Happy new year and what a great post. I decided a while ago I would no longer make new years resolutions at new year when they generally failed so terribly therefore I make a new years resolution as and when I need it – its still new whatever time of the year it is and hopefully if it is “of the moment” it is right for then and there until it no longer needs space. I do have one recent mantra that has popped into my head – this happened over Cheesemas (sometime between Christmas and new year) and that is “fill your own space” which sounds like an anti diet thing – but truly it isnt. What I feel about filling my own space is to be more present and more honest about who I am what I need and not apologising – not being caught in the cross fire and getting whipped up by other peoples issues or politely agreeing just to shut them up… I have already tried it out (with a good friend) who likes a good rant – I think she is a little bewildered at my non-engagement on some of her pet issues but we are still friends 🙂

    And I am loving your lav

    • Sharon Sinclair.Williams
      Author
      January 2, 2020 / 1:40 pm

      Happy new year, Juliet!!

      Isn’t it great when we try these social experiments out? I definitely think I can fill my own space both dietary and non dietary 😉

      #lovingthelav sounds like a great hashtag!!

      • juliet brown
        January 2, 2020 / 4:10 pm

        me too hon – you make me laugh AND think, you are quite brilliant

        • Sharon Sinclair.Williams
          Author
          January 13, 2020 / 12:25 am

          That is so lovely, Juliet. I do love your comments xo

  5. Nancy
    January 2, 2020 / 1:54 pm

    Sounds good. Happy New Year btw. I don’t set goals, I just want to live my life the best way possible. But someone said: I can’t be accounted for a persons action. And that opened my eyes. Because I can be very fussy of what other people do. I hope I can say that phrase every morning in my head and then start my day.

    • Sharon Sinclair.Williams
      Author
      January 13, 2020 / 12:26 am

      Happy new year, Nancy! I like your way of thinking for sure 😉

  6. January 2, 2020 / 11:11 pm

    Good on you Sharon,
    Positivity rocks!
    Let’s celebrate who we are and what we have, not the opposite.
    The older I get the more accepting I am !
    I stay away from moaners and any form of negativity because life is short!
    Brilliant writing as usual heres to a fabulous year !
    Ashley xxx

    • Sharon Sinclair.Williams
      Author
      January 13, 2020 / 12:27 am

      Happy new year, Ashley!

      Isn’t it fabulous the good things that come with age and wisdom? We rock!! xo

  7. January 3, 2020 / 10:28 am

    Wow Sharon – what a powerful post! You’re absolutely right about being enough, because if you think about the opposite – thinking that you’re NOT enough – that’s really self-destructive, isn’t it? Loved the list from Vex King too, thank you for that 😀

    Catherine x

    • Sharon Sinclair.Williams
      Author
      January 13, 2020 / 12:24 am

      Happy new year, Catherine!

      A good quote always gets me in the right mindset. I drive my family mad. The Vex King book is soooo good.

      I honestly couldn’t believe how saying ‘I Am Enough’ three times in my head to myself in that yoga class had such an effect on me. Very powerful xo

  8. January 3, 2020 / 8:56 pm

    Great post Sharon. I think I’m already practicing a few on the list. This is mainly through mistakes made and life experience. The other’s I need to work on, especially sleeping more. I think we all get disillusioned sometimes but I find there’s always someone or something round the corner to make you feel good again and those are the things to hang on to.
    Alison x

    • Sharon Sinclair.Williams
      Author
      January 13, 2020 / 12:21 am

      Happy new year, Alison!

      I think it’s important to be as positive as we can. I’ve always said this to my boys. Tomorrow really IS another day and we can start again on anything as many times as we want. It’s our choice. I’ve had to do this this weekend. Hence I blogged about it!!https://www.bestbeforeenddate.com/northern-life/self-care-sunday-with-a-trip-to-tynemouth/ … my VERY necessary Self Care Sunday xo

  9. January 9, 2020 / 2:05 pm

    I’m in! Though I do love resolutions/goals. I can think I’m pretty darn great and STILL want to be Even Better! And the older I get, the more I learn about ways I can improve, so…it’s never-ending but I think that’s a GOOD thing. I kinda think when we stop learning, growing, trying to improve…our life is over…even if we’re still alive. Granted I may not still be saying that in 20 years (if I’m even still around!), but…for now, that’s my credo and I’m sticking to it!!!

    And LOVE the Vex King quote! Haven’t heard of him, so am off to do a little research (aka GOOGLING).

    Happy New!

    Bettye

    • Sharon Sinclair.Williams
      Author
      January 13, 2020 / 12:19 am

      Happy new year, Bettye!

      I’m all over Vex King quotes right now. His book is brill.

      I’m loving what you’ve said too. ALL of it. Spot on for me xo

  10. January 26, 2020 / 2:15 pm

    I don’t think there’s a person on the planet that this post wouldn’t resonate with. I love the Vex wisdom, so simple and so apt. Here’s to letting go and accepting what is, in 2020 xxx

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