For as long as I can remember throughout my adult life I’ve made resolutions at new year. Mostly they’re all about setting myself unrealistic goals that I know in my heart of hearts I will never achieve and that I will continue on a cycle of self destruction of hating myself for letting myself down. You know that feeling of letting yourself down? So, I’ve decided a few things for 2020 and it’s even more apt that it’s the beginning of a new decade. Could it be I spend the next ten years of finally me settling for me and accepting that I am enough? How fabulous that would finally be.
My social media feeds since Christmas have been full of people’s goals. In equal measures they’ve made me feel happy and inadequate. Happy in the sense that I love seeing people strive for fullness in their lives. Inadequate in the sense that I think, do I have to do the same? This year, again? Sending myself into that downward spiral of failure.
I’m hoping that I can be content with just being me. I’m going to give it a try anyway. I just have to learn to let go of years and years of baggage … the shit I’ve put myself through.
I knew my downstairs loo picture would be cathartic 😉
Self acceptance is one of the toughest tasks I think we can ever set ourselves. I started yoga for the first time ever in November and in one of the sessions the teacher asked us to think of a word or phrase that could help us be more accepting of ourselves. The phrase ‘I Am Enough’ just popped into my head. We had to repeat three times what we chose quietly to ourselves. It was so powerful to me that I almost burst into tears.
Yes …. I bloody well am enough
It was even more powerful that author, Vex King popped up into my Instagram feed recently too. It’s weird isn’t it when a sequence of events seem to unknowingly lead you to something that is going to stop and make you think? I bought his book for my eldest son who incidentally is 26 today. Happy Birthday son!!
I loved one of Vex’s recent Instagram posts – ‘ How To Make 2020 Great’ and it really resonated with me.
All of this isn’t to say that I don’t have goals. I do. For starters, I have some pretty big business goals for 2020 and beyond. I just want to be kinder to myself if I don’t tick them off my list. That it’s okay.
Here is the post from Vex. It’s my whole vibe for 2020.
Get excited about your goals.
Grind like you still got a point to prove.
Network with the right people.
Step out of your comfort zone.
Be brave when it comes to challenges.
Keep a healthy sleeping pattern.
Feed your mind.
Go out there and make things happen.
Let shit go.
Stop negative habits.
Keep your circle positive.
Smile, laugh and love often.
Make kindness a priority.
Keep counting your blessings.
Talk about the things you love.
Try new things out.
Travel when you can.
Live in your means.
Spend more time with your loved ones.
Take good care of your body and soul.
Make your happiness a priority.
What do you think? Care to join me?