Am I The Valentine Grinch?


I feel as if I must be the Valentine grinch here when I say this but I hate Valentine’s Day!

There – I’ve said it. It’s out. Am I alone in admitting it?

Romance is so much more than one day in the year. I’ve been spoiled througout my 31 year relationship with Mr Bbed because he is romantic everyday. Not in the traditional ‘bringing me flowers home’ kind of way and I do undertand that  everyone  categorises  romance in different ways. Then again I’ve never had to wade through a room full of red roses so maybe I don’t understand that cupid arrow pinging stuff to it’s maximum intensity.

Anyone can have a great time romantically when the sun is shining but what about when the rain clouds darken your sky?  It’s about the small stuff every day at least that’s my version — what I think is a real version of romance and love.

Here’s what my experience of romance is and long may it reign…

  • He brings me my cup of tea in bed every morning – 7 days of the week.
  • At weekends he makes me scrumptious breakfasts and never complains about how long I lie in — sometimes I do lie in sometimes I don’t.
  • He makes sure I’m on the inside whenever we are walking along a road together. Old skool I know.
  • Wherever we are and whatever we are doing he always puts my needs first and makes sure I’m happy.

I think he must’ve learned very early on in our marriage – ‘ Happy wife — Happy life’!!

I do the same for him — well he says in my head I think I do. What I am good at  though and I’m sure he would agree if he was asked  is picking places to visit and surprising him with unusual ideas of things we should do. That’s my forte. I just don’t use this particular super power for Valentine’s Day.

It’s not that I’m tight either far from it — I have holes in my pockets when it comes to spending on treats and I’m not saying Mr Bbed and I haven’t exchanged gifts on Valentine’s Day because we have. We sometimes send cards — I prefer apt and humorous to soft and squishy. We’ve partaken of the odd M&S Valentine Dine In For Two Meal. The Valentine grinch in me can’t bear being ripped off at restaurant price hikes around this time of the year. Check it out — it sounds lush this year and excellent value as usual.

If I was to buy a gift or receive one for that matter one of my favourite shopping destinations is Not On The High Street. Here’s some of my  favourites this year. You’ll find them all under their Valentine’s Day gift category.

Cards I Would Send Mr Bbed …




Gifts I Would Buy Mr Bbed Any Other Day Of The Year …




Gifts I’d Suggest On A Post-It Note For Mr Bbed To Buy Me…




How do you feel about Valentine’s Day? I’d love to hear from you in the comments. I can’t be the only grinch — can I? Happy Valentine’s Day To Everyone — Anyway!



  1. February 13, 2017 / 10:48 am

    Love your new blog – your about page made me chuckle.

    I do like a bit of romance but when you’ve been together a long time it does feel a bit fake. Steve hates card companies (LOL) so we’ll be making each other a little card with a few nice words in and we’re cooking a nice Indian banquet together – long gone are the days of red roses and teddy bears. We’ll leave that to the younger generation!

    • Sinclair Williams
      February 13, 2017 / 6:20 pm

      Ha! Glad I made you chuckle, Sam — that’s made my day ๐Ÿ™‚ I’ll look forward to those photos Steve posts of your yummy meals. It’s usually when I’m starving I see them. xo
      P.S You are my first comment!! Thankyou xo

  2. February 13, 2017 / 11:47 am

    Great first post! I really enjoyed reading this and while I don’t hate Valentines day I agree that little gestures are way moe important year around than on one given day! Like you we love a M&S meal deal and have that each year on Valentines Day for our tea and exchange cards. This years selection was lovely so I actually bought two deals and we had one on Saturday! that card is great as is the mug, I’m going online now to see if I can find a Bacardi & coke one…for me! ha ha may get hubby a Vodka & coke one…just not for Valentines! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    • Sinclair Williams
      February 13, 2017 / 6:18 pm

      Thanks June — I’m glad you like it! Hope you find the mugs xo

  3. February 13, 2017 / 9:03 pm

    Love this post. Totally agree. This year I feel like a Valentine’s day grinch! Really like the gift ideas you’ve added!

    • Sinclair Williams
      February 14, 2017 / 9:03 pm

      It’s good to be a grinch, Danni! Hope you’ve enjoyed your Valentine Day xo

  4. February 14, 2017 / 8:32 am

    Great post! I love that card about checking your phone in bed. This is so me and Alan!!

    • Sinclair Williams
      February 14, 2017 / 9:01 pm

      Thanks Cat! Isn’t the card cool? These types of cards are the best <3

  5. Gaynor Mullins
    February 11, 2019 / 4:51 pm

    I have only very recently started following you on Facebook and your excellent blog. Iโ€™m a 56 years old menopausal redhead (my natural colour but my hair turned white about 20 years ago and I refuse to give in to it) who is around 21 years old in my head. I totally agree that women in their fifties are often ignored and are made to feel as if we are invisible. Your blog is just the tonic I need and I love your style! Your Valentine blog made me laugh out loud, I could have written it myself. You are definitely not alone! Congratulations on your 2 year blog birthday, I hope thereโ€™ll be many more to celebrate x

    • Sharon Sinclair.Williams
      February 12, 2019 / 11:24 am

      That has made my day, Gaynor! We are all in this together, aren’t we?

      I’m glad to have found more fellow Grinches, too ๐Ÿ˜‰ xo

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