Dressing For My Personality – An Extroverted Introvert

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Dressing _For _My Personality _And _What _I _Like

Do You Dress For Your Personality Or Does Your Personality Instinctively  Dress You?

Upon first sight of any pictures you see of me you would probably jump to the conclusion that I am loud and extrovert. You are right,  I can be both. I think my clothes do a pretty good job of helping you assume this. It’s not a contrived look. After reaching the age of 55 I think I know what is ‘me’.

I don’t suffer any confidence crises over my choice of clothes. I’m comfortable in my own skin 90% of the time except when something no longer fits or I have to wear a bathing costume!

I was once described as ‘gregarious’ by someone who’d just met me and I had no clue what it meant but I knew from how she was speaking to me that it was a compliment. Phew!

gregarious [gri-gair-ee-uhs] … fond of the company of others; sociable.

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Whilst I accepted this description of me I also thought at the time ‘does she really mean me?’

You see, that was only half of the story. A big part of me doesn’t feel sociable or fond of company  at all sometimes.

Several years later I read an article in a magazine about personalities and I nearly fell off my chair when I read the description of an ‘Extroverted Introvert.’

‘THIS IS ME’ I proclaimed to Mr B. He nodded his head in agreement.

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6 Signs You’re An Extroverted Introvert

  1. You need time alone before and after socialising … YES
  2. You are very selective with your social calendar … YES
  3. You make new friendships easily but have trouble maintaining them … YES
  4. You crave true connection. Small talk makes you feel sick … YES
  5. You are quiet in a crowd … YES
  6. You always have an escape plan … YES

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Indeed, my escape plans have been honed to a fine art and Mr B reads the signs very well after all of these years and often our eyes meet in a social situation and he just knows I need to go home.

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Aren’t we complex us human beings? So, yes I do love people and having fun but there is another very different side to me.


Outfit Details

   Dress: Collusion X ASOS {sold out}

Polo Neck: Marks & Spencer

Boots: Ikrush 

Earrings: Top Shop {sold out}

Necklace: Top Shop {old}

Cuff: Next {old}

This post is part of a promise to myself that I’m going to try and be in front of the camera a little more. For years I was the mum who was never in the photos because I wasn’t happy with myself: too fat, hated my teeth etc; etc; you know that knocking of ourselves we all do even though people don’t often even see that about us?

How will my sons be able to look back on their extroverted introvert, gregarious, madcap mum if I don’t leave something behind they can laugh and reminisce over?

Food for thought, eh?

See You Soon!

Sharon xo



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  1. / 11:12 pm

    I’m sorta that, too…but I’m like 75% intro 25% extro. And you’re fortunate to have someone who can “read you,” and know what you need when you need it.

    I LOVE your boots.

    AND that lovely soft mauvey color in your hair is GORGEOUS. I’ve been thinking about doing a color. Does it wash out…or do you have to grow it out?


    • Sharon Sinclair.Williams
      / 11:22 pm

      I am fortunate, Bettye, you are right. Thankyou.

      I forgot I had the boots can you believe? They have been perfect in the snow and slush we’ve had.

      The colour is permanent but it fades nicely after a couple of washes and then I use a couple of products to keep it from turning brassy.
      You can get wash out colours tho to try first. I’m going to write a blog post soon I think as I must get asked every day about my hair which I can never quite comprehend. The intro side of me is like ‘me? my hair you talking about?’ 😉

  2. Meg
    / 6:26 am

    That’s me too. I’m not gregarious or ‘loud’ but I’m a social introvert.

  3. I love your bold and bubbly personality and it certainly comes across in your posts – This is me and take me as you find me – I am going to have fun. I find myself loving fun and colourful clothes but as I have got older I prefer thing to fit closer around my neck and arms giving me a little more cover. What I do have a major problem with is shoes – they are either too narrow or come too high up the front of my foot onto the bone from the instep!
    Loving your posts. Have a great day – Love – Jill stylishatsixty x

  4. Lythan
    / 9:35 am

    I can relate to that. In my job I need to be extra very. Be up front, chat to different people and make connections. And I love of all of that. But if I don’t have equal time on my own I will (literally) go mad. I have also found myself in my 50s going for more colourful hair and outfits (still lots of black and an ever funky clerical shirt on work days) because I don’t care so much about other people’s opinions. I dress to make me happy. Although I would be happier with even more glitter and bunny ears but that is probably a step too far to be seen as a credible Minister of Religion:)

  5. Christina
    / 11:16 am

    I love the company of others, but most ppl bore me to death. They always seem to talk about the sports their doing (I hate sports) and their next or last vacation and how perfect their lifes are when I want to talk about movies, politics, psychology or art. So I usually end up saying very little. Before and and socializing I‘m always very nervous and angsty and I even sweat more to the point that I think I need a drink to calm myself down. I want to like ppl but for some reason I seem to only meet idiots that unnerve me. lol

  6. / 8:14 pm

    I never knew that an extroverted introvert was a thing, but that is so me! Can I just say I absolutely love this outfit?❤️

  7. / 9:34 pm

    I knew I liked you!!! 🙂 Yes I can be extroverted when I have to but by golly it takes it out of me later – some days I get home after work and I just want to crawl into a private space for a while to recover I feel like I have had layers of skin shaved off me. Would my colleagues realise this, well until recently probably no – but I have been gradually more open about my need for solitude, so if they see me at lunchtime and I have scarpered towards coffee they give me a friendly nod but keep going, I need that space… I wonder if it is anything to do with May-birthdays, who knows. Anyway I LOVE your style and those boots – very lovely, I have a splendid pair of biker boots and a pair of DM chelsea boots which both go well with a dress, but I really am inspired with how you put your looks together. As for being photgraphed – I think you are lovely (and also very brave – I’ve had probably 3 photos taken in the last 10 years or so – no one recognises me by my profile on the work intranet), and I am fascinated by the comments – how people of like mind seem to flock together in the blogosphere without the usual social cues.

  8. / 10:36 pm

    I don’t know what I am. I need to think about it. I love company of friends…but am equally happy by myself. Just as well we are all different though…otherwise world would be boring x

  9. / 9:45 pm

    What a lovely post and outfit.
    It’s got me thinking what I am …
    Tracey x

    • Sharon Sinclair.Williams
      / 11:41 pm

      It’s great to share old posts that are still relevant and this one is still the same as the day I wrote it. What do you think you are Tracey? xo

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